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The Theology of Waiting Around

The Theology of Waiting Around

Paradigm's and Principles

Paradigm:  A paradigm is your perspective on life. They are the glasses you see something, your point of view, frame of reference, or belief.  That lens affects how you see everything else. Paradigms can often be inaccurate or incomplete and as a result often create limitations.

Paradigms of Self:  Are your paradigms of yourself helping or hindering you? A negative self-paradigm can limit you and a positive self-paradigm can bring out the best in you. Successful people have had a person believe in them.

Paradigm of Others:  Seeing things from a different point of view can help us understand why other people act the way they do and can make a difference in our attitude toward others. We often judge people without all the facts.

Therefore we shouldn’t be so quick to judge, label or form rigid opinions of others, or ourselves, for that matter. From our limited points of view, we seldom see the whole picture, or have all the facts. If we want to make changes in our lives, the key is to change our paradigms, or the glasses though which we see the world. Change the lens and everything else follows.  If you’ll look closely, you’ll find that most of your problems are the result of a messed-up paradigm or two.

Paradigm’s of Life:  Whatever is most important to you will become your paradigm, your glasses, or as I like to call it, your life center.

Principle Centered Life

 There are principles that rule the physical world; there are principles that rule the human rule.  They apply to all people at all times in all culture in all true religion.  Just as a compass always points to true north, your heart will recognize true principles.

Hard Work is a principle: You can’t fake playing golf, tuning a guitar, or speaking Arabic if you haven’t paid the price to get good. There’s no short cut. NBA star Larry Bird said “ If you don’t do your homework, your won’t make your free throws.”

Breaking Principles always catches up to you. Cecil B. DeMille observed about the 10 Commandments.  It is impossible for us to break the law. You can only break yourself against it.

Principles never fail: To grasp why principles always work, just imagine life based on their opposites. Putting principles first is the key to doing better in all the other centers. In whatever situation ask yourself what is the principle in play here?

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People   Stephen & Sean Covey

The Private Victory

1.       Be Proactive: Take Responsibility for your life

2.       Begin with the End in Mind: Define your mission and goals in life.

3.       Put First Things First: Prioritize, and do the most important things first.

The Public Victory

4.       Think Win-Win: Have an everyone can win attitude.

5.       Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood: Listen to people sincerely.

6.       Synergize: Work together to achieve more

Renewal

7.       Sharpen the Saw: Renew yourself regularly.

The 7 Habits of Highly Defective People

1.       React: Blame all your problems on others and be a victim and take no responsibility for your life.

2.       Begin with no end in mind: Don’t have a plan, avoid goals and never think about tomorrow.

3.       Put First Things Last: Make sure that things that don’t matter always come before things that do.

4.       Think Win-Lose: See life as a vicious competition. If you are going to lose, make sure you drag the competitor with you.

5.       Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to Listen: Always express your views and opinions till your understood and then pretend to listen and if they really want their opinion, give it to them.

6.       Don’t Cooperate: Teamwork means you have to work with weird people who have inferior ideas and opinions.  It’s best to work by yourself because you have all the best ideas. Be an island.

7.       Wear Yourself Out: Be so busy with life that you never take time to renew or improve yourself.

Habits are things we do repeatedly, sometimes automatically and unaware we are doing it.

Habits can be good, bad, or indifferent.

“Sow a thought, and you reap an act;

Sow an act, and you reap a habit;

Sow a habit, and you reap a character;

Sow a character, and you reap a destiny”

The 7 Habits can help you

Get Control of Your Life                                Improve Relationships

Make smarter decisions                                Overcome addiction

Get more done in less time.                        Find Balance in your life.

Increase your self-confidence.                  Be Happy.

                   Define your values and what matters most to you.

FOMAK'S

CLASSIC FRIENDS

Mark's Family
Dad
Mom
Mary/Chris
Patty/Jeff
Angelia/Damion
Jessica/Mike/Broody
Laurie/Mark/Brooke/Matthew

Ron Parker (Close Friend of the Family)

Extended Family
Aunt Linda
Uncle Art
Cathy and Arnold
Sean
Meghan
Ryan
Collen

Steve Elliot
Del Elliot

YOUTH
Tony Nigro

(Mike Nigro)

MS
Gabe
Ken Pressy

HS
Darren
Jeff Rielly

Dean
Chris Crawford

AfterDean
Jack
(Rick) Occasionally at Christmastime

FSC YEARS
Marshall
Mrs Myers
Costello (Aaron Banyai)
Memo

Gallaghers
Waltons
Kristy Reed
Hamila's
Amy Philippo
Beth Boberg
Dubes

Lisa Thompson
Kris Clarke
Susan Davenport

POSTFSC
John Burke

Liza
Wagners: Jeff, Julia, Robbie and Elliana
Joe Schuster
Jaramey Lynch

Paul Fadden

Kerri
Steph
Bryan

Ellise
Dan & Angelia
Dan Wallace

The Starrs
Rose
Renee
John Raymond

Tighes
Eric Ewanco
Tom O
Walter
Eric
Monica
Kirsten O Hearn

g-family
Dave Patten
Patty Goodale
Shanley's
Greg
Jen Welch
Brendon
Sam
Chalrie L
Jennifer S

Post g-family
Jen Duval
Amy Duval
Allison O
Amanda & Courtney

FUS FRIENDS
Will Sleaver
Dave Duroys

Andrew
Natalie
Elizabeth
Ryan
Mike/Brooke Zanikey

Brian Goshern
Kevin Ashbrook
Tahlia Fernandez
Melissa and Josh Portner
Cindy Scheiner
Doug Jaglowsdi
Michelle Blohm

Other FUS
PD
Aaron

Other People
Todd
John L
Kevin Carr

The Begining of the Wedding Plans

Mark and Kristin’s Wedding Plans

A. The Wedding

1. Pre-Wedding:

NFP Class: Currently Attending
Pre-Cana/Marriage Encounter DONE
Mail Letter to Priest DONE
Get Marriage Licence -DONE

Get Suits for Groomsmen (blue velvet) Gentlemen’s Warehouse
Get Tux for Me

Measured Tux's
Mark is Done
Marshall's Is DONE
Dave's is DONE
Greg's is DONE
Jeff's is DONE
Robbie Wagner is DONE
John Nealon is DONE

Need to Pick up Suits and Pay 4 Them

GET GIFTS FOR WEDDING PARTY
Brides Maids- RECIEVED
Groomsmen RECIEVED
Flower Children-Ordered
Ringer -Ordered
K's Parents- CARD/AFTER THE WEDDING GET GIFT
M's Parents- CARD/AFTER WEDDING GET GIFT
Msgr. Hallaran - Probably $$$

Get Bridesmaid’s Dresses DONE
Get Bride’s Wedding Dress- DONE

Get Ring Sizes- DONE
Got Wedding Rings 6 and 10 DONE

Register for Gifts Ongoing
Get final wedding List May have Add On's
Sent Out and some have Recieved
Get Addresses of Wedding invites Depends on one above
Give contact info to all groomsmen - Should Be Done

Rehearsal - Wend, December 30th 6:00 PM
Make sure Wedding Party knows EMAILED INFO
Rehearsal Dinner - At Kristin's Parents

Wedding Shower DONE
Bachelor Party ???

Write Msgr Hallaran Essay DONE
Finish Msgr. Hallaran Paperwork DONE
Get Stuff as Seen on Target Gift List

Find Where Grooms Wedding Party is Staying nite before

Booked Hotel Sweet

Find Where Guests are staying nite before- Sent Information


2. The Wedding Ceremony


Wedding Party chosen

Make Church Bulletin
Remain Certain Individuals of Liturgical Norms

Celebrant: Msgr. Halloran
Co-Celebrant
Fr. B?
Fr. Boressa

Best Man: Marshall Myers

Groomsmen:
Jeff Wagner
Dave Patten
Greg Z

Maid’s of Honor:
Kathleen Nealon
Erin Nealon

Bridesmaids:
Katherine Keimeg
Karen Igoe

Photographer: Joe Buckley
Videographer: Andrew Shanley (Pay $500.00)
Give Bill or INFO to J&K
Organist: $150
Priest: ???
Parish: ???

Let Singers Know our Song

Opening Hymn Rosemary Renyolds: Something Cannon
Offetory Hymn Kathleen’s Sisters: Be Thy My Vision
Celtic Hallaylula
Communion Hymn Rosmary Renyolds: She'll Pick
Closing Hymn Kathleen's Sisters: Companions on the Journey

Pick out Readings: PICKED OUT

The Readers

1st Reading: Karen Igoe Tobit 8: 4B-8
Responsorial Psalm: Kathleen's Sisters Psalm 32
2nd Reading : Marshall Myers Romans 12: 1-2, 9-18
Gospel- Matthew 19:3-6

Hossena: Kathleen's Sisters

Gift Bearer: Flower Girls
Prayer of the Faithful : MAKE LIST
TBA Make list of dearly departed

Ring Bearer: Robbie Wagner
Flower Girls: Hannah Igoe ,Caitlin Igoe

Receiving Line


INBETWEEN
Get Limo
Figure out Information

Wedding Photos: Where to Take Pictures?In Church
Reception Hall
Outside?

3. The Wedding Reception
DJ- Depoist Made
Touch Up Playlist
Give List of Birthdays

Cake: Amanda

RECEPTION HALL: Pay based on Guests coming.
Seat according to who is coming.

B. The Honeymoon

Transportation: Airplane- Booked & Paid For
Hotel: Booked & Not Paid For/ Not Confirmed
Car Rental: Booked & Not Paid For/ Confirmed

Where were going and when

Daily Mass-
Maybe More Days at Clinic!!!

Monday January 4th
WE ARRIVE
Wonderwoks

Tuesday January 5th
Disney Day # 1 Get Tickets from J&K

Wednesday January 6th
Disney Day #2 Get Tickets from J&K

Thursday January 7th
Wet n Wild ONLINE TICKETS?

Friday January 8th
Pro-Life Activities
Shrine

Saturday January 9th
Maybe Clinic ?
Holy Land Experience ONLINE TICKETS

Sunday Janurary 10th
Universal Stuios or (Discovery Cove) ONLINE TICKETS
Blue Man Group?

Monday January 11th
We LEAVE

C. The Marriage

Clean Condo
Put it on the Market -it is
Find Job

The House:
Deal Signed: September 10th
Mark has Moved In Oc
Move in Stuff yes Mark

Prepare to Paint it ok
Paint it 1 1/2 quarter done
Tile the Kitchen DONE
Tile the Bathroom DONE
Cover up Woodpecker Hole DONE??
Cut down bushes in the Front done DONE

LEFT TO DO INSIDE
Light in Peach Room
Light in Blue Room

New outlits downstairs
Outlet in the Bathroom

Paint the Kitchen

Throw away Mark's ulgy cups and plates

Do something with road kill matress

Organize our Stuff

OUTSIDE
Paint the Outside
Outside Light Back on
Outlit outside?

January 2 Move to Framingham
Find Job

A New Place to lay our Heads

As Kristin and I travel the one road, the long and winding road to God knows where, we have made another big monumental landmark in our new lives as a soon to be married couple.

Soon FOMAK's young and old, far and near, will be able to travel to Framingham Massachusetts and wine and dine at Mark & Kristin's new home. Actually neither us drink wine, so will serve you leomon-aide instead and play a rousing competitive full contact game of Scrabble.

The papers will be signed in September, just in time as my lease in my life in Watertown is about to end. Kristin will remain in RI until she sells her Condo and then she will move in with me, after we are married. Till then she will live with Mom and Dad.

We have already meet our neighbors who live next door. A nice older woman who likes teddy bears and the Pillsbury Dough Boy. Her son and husband also live with her. Betty, her son Randy and Joe or John her husband. They could end up being very good friends.

Before us Rhonda Ralings lived in our house. But saddly she has gone to her eternal reward. But we now continue the legacy of living in her house. When we get settled, you can continue the legacy of visiting the house. Afterall, I'm sure Ronda had guests.